Episode 3

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21st Aug 2025

I Got Mine: The Politics of Pleasure

What does it really mean when someone says, “I got mine”? Is it selfish, sexy, smug—or something far deeper? In this episode, I unpack the phrase and share a personal story from my own journey of claiming pleasure after years of being taught to prioritize everyone else’s needs first. We’ll explore how gender, consent, selfishness, and social programming all shape our relationship to sexual satisfaction.

Why does it feel different when a man unapologetically takes his pleasure versus when a woman does? Can we separate selfishness from sovereignty? And what happens when we stop keeping score in bed and instead embrace abundance, reciprocity, and curiosity?

Together, we’ll talk about the “givers” and “takers,” the guilt that so often shadows desire, and how reclaiming the right to say I got mine might be the most liberating act of sexual self-discovery.

Plus, I close this episode with a reading from the book Want—a reminder that fantasy, too, belongs to each of us unapologetically.

Whether you’re exploring your own identity, in a partnership, or simply curious about the politics of pleasure, this one will leave you thinking.

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It started with a whisper.
Not a business plan. Not a blueprint. Just a feeling I couldn’t shake—
that something essential was missing in the way we talk about sex, sexuality, intimacy, and self-expression.
For years, I moved between roles: partner, professional, seeker.
But beneath it all, I was quietly asking:
Where do we go to talk about desire without being reduced to it?
Where can we explore our erotic lives without shame, pressure, or performance?
I couldn’t find that space.
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Whisper Lounge concept began as a podcast—a hidden room in the digital world where nothing was off-limits and everything was welcome. A place for conversations that didn’t fit neatly into boxes. For stories too raw for daylight. For exploring sexuality not just as pleasure, but as a portal to freedom, confidence, play and deep connection.
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