Episode 4

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18th Sep 2025

Deprogramming Desire: My Journey Into Sex Positivity

Sex positivity gets thrown around a lot—in hashtags, in headlines, even as a trendy identity. But what does it actually mean in real life? In this episode, I unpack what sex positivity looks like off the internet and inside real relationships.

I share how my own story—from abstinence and a sexually-anorexic marriage to divorce, curiosity, and freedom—reshaped the way I think about sex and desire. For me, sex positivity isn’t about being boundaryless, hypersexual, or saying yes to everything. It’s about honesty, self-awareness, and giving myself permission to say yes, no, or maybe—without guilt.

We’ll talk about:

Why sex positivity is more about freedom of thought than behavior.
How cultural rules and “should's” shape our sexuality without us realizing it.
The difference between being sexual and being sensual.
Why curiosity and permission are at the heart of sex positivity.
The surprising role of guilt, shame, and deprogramming in our sexual journeys.

If you’ve ever wondered what sex positivity means beyond Instagram captions, this episode is for you. It’s not about being provocative for the sake of it—it’s about trading performance for truth and discovering freedom in your own body and desires.

Listen in, reflect on your own “shoulds,” and consider: What would sex positivity look like for you, today?

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Whisper Lounge Podcast

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This is a space for the conversations that don’t fit into neat boxes. A place where sex, identity, and relationships aren’t bound by binaries, and where morality is a spectrum, not a rulebook. In this unfiltered, experiential podcast, we explore the messy, beautiful, and deeply human aspects of sexuality—before shame, before dogma, before limits. From history and philosophy to personal storytelling and modern sex-positive culture, no topic is off-limits. Listen for the whispers only you can hear.
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It started with a whisper.
Not a business plan. Not a blueprint. Just a feeling I couldn’t shake—
that something essential was missing in the way we talk about sex, sexuality, intimacy, and self-expression.
For years, I moved between roles: partner, professional, seeker.
But beneath it all, I was quietly asking:
Where do we go to talk about desire without being reduced to it?
Where can we explore our erotic lives without shame, pressure, or performance?
I couldn’t find that space.
So I made it.
Whisper Lounge concept began as a podcast—a hidden room in the digital world where nothing was off-limits and everything was welcome. A place for conversations that didn’t fit neatly into boxes. For stories too raw for daylight. For exploring sexuality not just as pleasure, but as a portal to freedom, confidence, play and deep connection.
The idea that started as a quiet offering turned into something louder—a community of people hungry for truth, softness, and unapologetic desire. Now, it’s not just a podcast. It’s a growing ecosystem of tools, products, and private experiences designed to help you unlearn the noise and tune into what’s real for you.
If you’re here, you’ve probably felt it too.
The whisper.
The what if.
The ache to feel safe enough to be fully seen.
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